Along with the emphysema he's got diabetes that he mostly ignores and two shoulder replacements from injuries sustained in helicopter crashes in Vietnam, his quality of life has been diminishing faster than it should. He turned 73 this year up in his cozy log cabin in the wilderness of northwest Montana. Retiring to a place filled with hunting and fishing was always his dream, one that his amazing wife Andi worked incredibly hard to attain for him. I don't even know what her dream was, maybe it was living with my dad and making him happy because that's what she's always done. It wouldn't be a stretch to say, and my dad would agree, that he doesn't deserve her. Andi's really an amazing woman, of this there is no doubt, though sometimes I questioned her judgement. She let my dad get away anything. They've never had any wealth and what they've earned has been used mostly to spoil my dad rotten. I wonder how much sooner they might have been able to buy that cabin and live the rural life if Andi had said no to dad's crazy impulses. All those crazy things made up who my dad was I guess and without them where would he get stories to tell. What would we remember about him if not for the things he did?
But still, I think about all the plans he had for his life at the cabin. He had a garage built with doors large enough that a helicopter could be moved in and out. He knew he could never afford his own helicopter, at least I think he did. Maybe he was like a little boy who just wished for something really hard and thought that was enough to make it happen. Consequently he kept every thing he thought he might be able to use in one of his plans. Everything had a monetary value that he would have to come up with at some point if he needed the item and having tossed it would have to spend to get it back. He kept everything. I helped him move it, minus the trash Andi and I could toss when he wasn't looking, all the way from Ojai California to Marion Montana. Everything was part of a plan that now he would be executing. I helped him move his fishing boat, the one he would spend weekends out at the Channel Islands mooring up at Smuggler's Cove to sleep off a day of fishing or hide out from a storm; helping him move it all the way to Montana where he planned to take it out on the lakes, probably to freak out the locals. That was another thing my dad loved doing, freaking out his friends. His pranks were sometimes elaborate but always infuriating and over the top. He once dropped cow pies out of a helicopter onto his best friend Wally and his customers in the transmission shop. He'd rig military surplus smoke grenades to explode when Wally opened the shop gates. I don't think mischievous is quite enough to describe the lengths he was willing to go to in order to pull off a prank.
None of it matters anymore. He didn't take care of himself and he waited too long. He wanted to spend his time fishing but emphysema, lack of oxygen, pain in his shoulders, and diabetes keep him too tired to go. The boat sits in the garage rotting away. Boxes and boxes of the pieces he was going to put together are becoming home to mice and bugs. His semi-rare motorcycle in pieces sits next to his beloved Corvette which hasn't started since it rolled up to the house. All of that time and all of those plans for nothing. I tell myself, at least he got the cabin; at least he made it. Maybe I never thought he would. But I guess I shouldn't have doubted Andi. She found a way to make it happen for dad.
And now it's over. His condition has deteriorated so badly that he's been in a care home for several weeks. He can't stand without falling but he wont stop trying to stand. He injured himself so badly he had to go to the hospital. Now he's got pneumonia as well. The worst of it is that dementia has sent in and he doesn't even realize he is sick. He thinks there is nothing wrong and he fights the doctors. He yells at them to get out of his house as he rips out the IV again and tries to get out of bed. They've tried to help him but they're saying he isn't going to get any better. He isn't ever going to go back to his cabin in the woods with his lovely loyal wife.
The ironic part is he hasn't asked for a cigarette the entire time he's been in the hospital, as if they were one of the things he's forgotten. I always thought he would die with a smoke on his hand or sitting on the ashtray.